Welcome to The Hard Truth Podcast.
This is Jeremy Fouts.
In today’s episode, we are going to be talking about building a new life.
I don’t know about you, but I’ve found myself in several times in my life, you know, kind of in a rut, not where I want to be and kind of almost stagnant and thinking how in the world can I get out of this situation?
I want to share with you five things that I have used over the years when I find myself in this rut to start a new beginning.
See, if you’re not where you want to be in life right now, life is not over if you’re listening to this episode, and you can change if you flip the switch.
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Well, again, today, talking about building a new life, this is something that I love to do.
This is part of what I’ve did for 20-something years of, you know, taking people, helping them identify the things they need to work on, helping them realize the progression and what it takes in order to have a different type of life.
And I hope that you listen today and take some notes and really apply these five steps, and that way you accomplish what you want to accomplish in life.
And, you know, first I will say that a lot of you, you know, listening, as I said, you may be in a rut and think, man, you know, I’m okay with life, but I want more, but I’m kind of comfortable.
Life has been designed for us to get the most out of it.
You know, one of the simple illustrations or analogies that I love to use is you’re not going to find an oak tree that only grows to about eight foot tall and happy with that.
That tree is always going to be looking for moisture in the soil.
It’s always going to be reaching for the sun, and it’s going to be the biggest and baddest tree that it can become.
And that’s what you should strive to be.
So these are five things that’s always helped me, and I’m going to get into number one, and that is stop being lazy, work on you, your relationships, and your profession, as if your life depends on it, because it does.
You know, I love a lot of you listening.
You’re like, well, I’m not lazy.
Well, I’m not saying that you’re lazy on sitting on the couch all day.
You may have kids like me.
We just got in from a lacrosse tournament last night, late from the East Coast, and you know what?
I did not want to go do my workout this morning, but I went and did it anyway.
You know, you may have a lot of things going on in your work, in your life, with kids and different things, and you’re always moving, but are you putting moving practices into your life every day that you can start seeing a good progression of success in order to get to the life that you want to get to?
See, I have a bad habit.
Or I had a bad habit.
I’ve been able to work out of it the last 10 years through what I’m teaching you of just staying busy, but those things that I’m doing is really not making a difference in the outcome, and that’s what we’re going to be talking about.
But it’s all about working on you, your relationships, and your profession.
You know, that’s the whole key.
A lot of you may be listening and think, well, I don’t know what those things are.
We’re going to talk about that.
So number two is what you need to do is you got to make a list of things you can do every day to increase your output, your workouts.
I mean, make a list of what you’re going to do on your workouts every day for every week that you can do for the next diney days.
Make a, make, if you say, hey, I’m going to do push pull or push day on Monday, I’m going to do pull day on Tuesday.
I’m going to do legs on Wednesday.
I’m going to do push again on Thursday.
I’m going to do legs again on Friday.
I don’t know what that is, but set that out and say, this is what my workouts are going to be.
Dex is your personal development.
You know, I read every night before I go to bed, at least 10 pages.
The first thing when I wake up in the morning, 10 pages, but get in that habit and making that list and putting it on piece of paper and say, I’m going to do these things.
Because if you do not feed the mind, you’re not going to have the strength in order to overcome.
I was talking to a baseball player the other day and, you know, I was talking to him about, you know, all of his different workouts and all these different things.
And I said, Hey, on hitting a baseball, what is the majority of it?
Is it physical or is it mental?
And he said, well, it’s mental.
It’s 90, 95% mental.
And I’m like, okay, so what are we doing for the mental mindset?
If we’re doing the physical things, that’s great.
But what are we doing for the mindset?
See, if you’re looking to achieve greatness in your business, your relationships, whatever it is you’re looking to do, you cannot only expect your physical attributes, the knowledge that you have.
You’ve got to put the good things in the mind to make a stronger mind.
Also, time management.
You know, I love getting up early.
If I don’t, I feel like I’m not able to accomplish everything I want to accomplish.
You know, looking at your clock for tomorrow and say, you know what, I don’t know if I can fit a workout in here, so I’m gonna have to wake up an hour early.
You know what, I don’t know if I can plan time for my wife on a date on Friday night, so I’m gonna have to do extra work on Thursday.
Whatever the situation, but put time to work.
Don’t just let it happen.
Also, your nutrition.
And anybody that listens to my podcast, they always say, well, man, you always talk about working out.
You always talk about nutrition.
You always talk about personal development.
Yes, because once you tell yourself you’re gonna do something, and you continue to do those daily disciplines daily, you build a confidence in yourself and a trust in yourself that you did what you say you’re going to do.
And then also in your profession.
So making this list, what we’re gonna do to increase outputs, our workouts, our personal development, our time management, our nutrition, our profession.
So you may own a company.
List out, if I make these changes, it’s gonna increase my output.
If I focus on this, this is gonna increase my output.
But making that list of all the things that you know you need to do in order to increase your output and put it to work.
Number three is the action will take care of the lack of belief that you can.
Do it for 90 days without looking up.
Now, let’s talk about the action will take care of the belief.
A lot of you listening to this, if you’ve never put yourself through this top of a project to become a new person, to make a new life, a lot of times we’re waiting on this inner power to believe that we can before we get started.
I work with a lot of people with fitness, and it’s so funny.
It’s the same thing over and over.
They’ll call me after a couple weeks and say, well, I really haven’t saw much results.
I haven’t really lost much weight.
And I’m like, hey, let me ask you a question.
Do you believe that if you go to the gym on a daily basis and work at it for an hour, and do you believe that if you continue to monitor the sugar and the sodas and all that stuff that went in your mouth, you’re kicking it out, and you monitor the good things that go in your body from a protein, from macros, from the carbs, from the fats, over time, doing it over and over, is it going to make a difference?
Yes, I believe it will.
Okay, then what we gotta do is focus on the action.
We don’t wait to hope that we just got this belief that I believe I can fly, I believe I can do something successful.
We look at the daily actions and say, even if I don’t believe, I’m gonna put the action in day in and day out, and then that belief will come as the results start to come.
But 90 days at a time, you say, well Jeremy, I don’t know about 90 days at a time.
This is something that’s always worked good for me.
I’ve talked and did a lot of trainings on the seasons, the four seasons of the year, that’s 90 days at a time.
And the reason I say 90 days is because there’s so many different things that people are always looking for.
Get rich in 30 days, do this for 45 days, do this for 60 days.
And I’m not saying that sometimes they can’t be a good tool to give someone a jumpstart, but I firmly believe if you can do something for three months straight, you’re going to be on the right path.
You’re going to all of a sudden start realizing that there is dramatic results in what we are putting ourself through.
And we believe that this is the new course of our life, but doing it for 90 days.
So if you’re listening to this episode, I don’t know when this is gonna be aired, probably around July 15th or so, then mark on the calendar and say September 15th.
This is going to be what I’m going to look to evaluate what my work has been doing for the last 90 days.
I’m gonna quit being lazy and just finding all the things that kept me busy.
I’m gonna make a list of these things, and I’m gonna do it every day, take action for the next 90 days.
Number four is remove distractions.
Social activities, social media.
You know, you can kind of look at it as going off grid for 90 days.
And you say, well, why is this necessary?
Because what you’ve got to understand, I’ve made this comment several times.
If you want a new life, you have to leave the old one.
You can’t keep the old life and then go get a new life.
And a lot of people have these habits of, oh, I’m gonna meet them at the pizza barn on Thursday night at five.
Oh, I’m gonna go do this golfing experience on Saturday morning.
I’m gonna do this fishing trip.
I’m gonna do this thing.
I’m gonna do that thing.
I’m not saying that those things can’t be good, but what you gotta do is you say, I’ve gotta totally get rid of all these distractions.
Maybe it’s social media scrolling.
Maybe it’s watching Netflix.
But you gotta say, for the next 90 days, I’m going off grid, and I’m gonna accomplish starting a new life.
I’m not going to let distractions keep me from accomplishing greatness in my family and in my personal life.
Number five, visualize what you can be and do in life, and then visualize where you will be if you don’t build a new life.
And ask yourself, which one am I going to choose?
So today, if you’re driving down the road or you’re working out in a gym, what I’m trying to get you to do here is really visualize where your life would be if you put this type of work and attention into it.
If you own your own business and you make a list of the things you need to do to increase that business, and you worked at it as hard as you could for 90 days straight, you worked on your physical fitness for 90 days straight, what you would look like.
You worked on your relationships for 90 days straight.
You worked on developing the strongest mindset you can for 90 days.
Just imagine what kind of specimen you could be.
What kind of person you could be when you walk in that room and have that confidence that you look good in your clothes, that you speak well because you put good things in the mind.
You understand that there’s nothing that scares you.
You can accomplish anything that’s put in front of you.
And really visualize that person that you can become in the next 90 days.
But then also visualize in the next 90 days if you did nothing, but continue doing the same thing that you’re doing today.
The same hobbies that’s getting you nowhere.
The same waste of time on Netflix.
The same waste of time on social media.
All these different things.
And you kept doing that for the next 90 days.
Then another 90 days is going to be another, another.
And it ought to scare you to death what your next two years are going to be like.
You’re not going to have a fit mind.
You’re not going to have a fit body.
You’re not going to have good relationships.
You’re not going to make more money.
You’re not going to have that confidence and then have that life that you want to have.
And that’s something I’ve always done is as I’ve always looked at and I’m in this rut in my life, always look and say, I’ve got two choices.
And I visualize what the life would look like if I put in the work and I see the reward and I grow this business, I grow this relationship, I become this person physically and mentally, and then I choose that path.
But I’d always visualize and say, man, if I don’t change, nothing’s going to change.
I’m going to remain the same person.
I’m going to speak the same things, watch the same things.
I’m going to look the same or maybe a little worse when I take my clothes off before a shower.
That should scare you to death.
But visualize both and then choose and say, I’m making a decision and only looking forward from here on out.
Some days you see results, some days it’s very discouraging, but if I keep moving forward with the action, I will get it done.
You know, as well as preparing this podcast, it was really intentional because I had a lot of conversations with different dads over the last couple weeks about different things.
And it seemed like 75, 80% of them, they just still didn’t know what direction to go.
How do I become the best I can be?
And that’s the reason for this podcast, is I wanted to give this information not only to them, but to all the rest of the people that are looking for more out of life, but they don’t know five simple things that they can do to start changing.
And it reminded me of a story of, I retired once back in 2016, and I wanted to teach my boys about agriculture, about the farming life experience.
And we bought a several thousand acre ranch in Colorado, Colorado, and I wanted to teach them, we had a red Angus cattle on the ranch, and I wanted to teach them about responsibility, working hard.
And when we bought this ranch, it had no fences on it.
So it had a lot of cattle from other people’s ranches.
We come in and graze our grass, and it was very discouraging, because literally, even though I own the land, it’s a fence out state, if I don’t put a fence there, then legally, their cattle can come onto my ranch and graze my grass.
And we needed to graze our grass with our cows.
So the only way to do this was to build a fence, and I’ll never forget this as long as I live.
My two boys were small, and my wife was by my side, and Candice and I and the boys, I looked at them, and I said, we have 13 miles of fence to build.
Now, if you can visualize this, this is terrain that literally some parts, it was so steep down and so steep up, you literally had to crawl.
And I looked at my boy’s face, and they was young at the time, and I looked at Candice’s face, and almost out of discouragement, almost out of fear, all these questions in their mind, and Pearson spoke up, and he said, Dad, how are we going to do that?
And I said, one fence post at a time.
And that was the most gratifying experience.
Owning that ranch, we had some great times, but the day we stepped aside and said, you know what, it might have took us forever.
I don’t remember how many days or how many years it took us, probably about a year and a half.
But I said, the fence project is complete, and we did it as a family, building one post at a time.
So today, it doesn’t matter what your life looks like.
It might have some ferocious terrain.
It might be looking up and thinking, there is no way I’m going to get out of this life situation.
There’s no way I can lose the weight I want to lose.
There’s no way I can make the money I want to make.
There’s no way I can build the relationships.
And I’m here today to tell you, yes, you can.
You can do it one fence post at a time.
You can do it one day at a time.
But simple, just number one, recognizing I’m not going to be lazy no more.
I’m going to work on me, my relationships, my profession.
I’m going to make a list of the things that I can do on a daily basis.
That’s like the fence post, one at a time.
I’m going to take action.
Even if I don’t believe that I can, I’m going to let the action take care of the results.
I’m going to remove the distractions, and I’m going to visualize where I would be if I don’t make this change.
And then I’m going to visualize where I will be if I make this change and building a new life.
And that’s what I’m going to focus on as my promise.
And I’m going to go accomplish what promise I’ve made to myself.
Guys, I hope you enjoyed this podcast.
Go build a new life.
Life is too short.
As I mentioned, your life does depend on it.
You get one of them, and you might as well go be the best version of you you can be.
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